"Asking The Right Questions"

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by Fred Zurofsky

I have found that a divorce is really a "Growth Experience" in disguise. If you're like most people, you will start asking questions that usually start with "Why?" This is not a very productive exercise if you want to learn anything about how your got yourself into this position. There is a lot to learn about your self and how you came to the point of divorce. It's not all his fault but you have to ask the right questions in the correct manner.

You have all the answers you need for yourself but can't gain access to them in your normal day and channels.

What you need is a different method to use to pull out the answers you need for your personal growth.

How many times did you try to pull out an answer and was stuck, only to have it pop up when you were shaving or in the shower? Your mind was working in the background but not when you pressed it for answers. So here is a technique that will help set your mind in motion. It should be done when you have time to concentrate, undisturbed.

Set yourself up with enough time and patience for your inner voice and wisdom to flow through you. Think of rays of energy colored like a rainbow bringing wisdom to you from the Universe. Let them flow over you and acknowledge them for their contribution to your well being.

Do this often, writing down what shows up for you. Don't judge, just write what you got in response to the questions. Try coxing this wisdom with your invitations by stating what you want to get from the vast storehouse of guidance and information. When you can, record your thoughts and feeling about each session. Do force it. If there's nothing there, let it be. It may pop up tomorrow.

The idea and purpose of this exercise is to have your mind opened up coming at it from a different angle. It's powerful and knows what's right for you but needs to be stimulated to deliver the answers. Your job is to pay attention.

Your powerful mind will supply the answers to whatever you focus on, so be mindful of what you wish it to deliver.

Add these empowering questions for your mind to ponder and ask them of yourself along with any others you can come up with. I will ask my inner self these questions just before going to sleep and let my subconscious mind work on them through the night.

Here Are Some Smart Questions  (Don't ever ask "WHY" questions!)

Who am (was) I being that attracted these circumstances in my life, and what can I learn from them?
(Notice, you're not blaming anyone or anything else here, because in reality, you are the author of your life!)

What am I resisting?
How could my life be transformed if I did this thing I fear?
What am I doing to bring on these problems?
How can I turn this situation __________________ around?
What am I holding on to that I need to let go of?
Who must I be in order to achieve the success I desire?
What am I grateful for in my life?
What's important to me?
How can I make a difference and add value to people's lives?
How can I use in my intuition to gain more clarity in my life?

What do I need to do to unlock my potential?
What do I want to accomplish with my life?
Who must I be in order to attract the mate of my dreams?
What do I need to know?
As you can see, the list can go on indefinitely.

What do I stand for? Who am I?
How can you use my innate genius and creativity and live the life I've imagined?

These questions are just the tip of the iceberg. They are designed to cause a shift for people who are living their lives as victims. Things don't pick you out of the crowd and decide to descend their ugliness on you. You are the author of your life, like it or not and you can rewrite the script as you please. It will take some time and work, but the outcomes will be well worth it.

Shift your thinking from that of a beggar in the universe to one who declares a future designed with the answers to these and other smart questions.

"Thoughts are things" and thoughts are the starting place of all outward manifestations.

What you will get from this exercise will be an insight to your inner self because as I said at the beginning of this article, "you have all the answers" and this exercise will bring them forth for you to see and understand.

About the author
Fred Zurofsky is an author and internet publisher who writes ebooks covering topics ranging from investing strategies, self help, personal transformation and internet business development at his web site: www.divorce-survival.com

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