"What is Love? Part 1 of 6"
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"What is Love? Part 1 of 6"
Robert Elias Najemy
Love is our greatest need. Is it our highest most fulfilling state.
Do we really love or are we simply attached to, identified with or dependent upon the persons we "love"?
Is our love free and unconditional, or is it mixed with various needs, conditions and demands?
What is unconditional love? Is it possible for us to cultivate it?
What is the difference between love and attachment?
How can we determine whether what we feel is love or attachment?
How can we purify our love and move into a higher level of consciousness?
These are some of the many questions that we need to answer in order to create happiness.
Love is a very difficult word to define, perhaps because its reality approaches spiritual dimensions, which are beyond time and space, and thus, our comprehension.
Love is perhaps more easily described by what it is not. Love is not fear, hurt, pain, jealousy, bitterness, hate, separateness, lust, attachment, aggressiveness, ego-centeredness, indifference, possessiveness, suppression - the list goes on.
Love, like God, peace and other spiritual realities, can be perceived more easily through the effects that it creates. We cannot see the wind, but we can see its effects, such as the leaves moving, branches swaying, or the sound of air rushing. We know wind exists by its various side effects. We know there is a Creator because we perceive its effect - creation itself.
What then are the effects of love? Love creates feelings of unity. We feel toward others as we feel towards ourselves. We are as interested in their welfare, happiness, success, health and spiritual growth as much as we are about our own.
Loving others means wanting them to be happy in whatever ways they are guided to their happiness. It breeds understanding, compassion, forgiveness, happiness, excitement, peace, joy, fulfillment and a desire to be helpful in any way we can.
Love is expansion beyond our ego limitations. It is the ability to identify with the other, to let go of our self-interest and personal needs enough to really hear and understand the others' needs and interests. It means caring enough to sacrifice, when
necessary, our own pleasures and desires when the others' needs are obviously more important.
Love is the force that brings about unity and harmony. It is the "glue" of the universe. It helps persons with different egos, desires, programming and needs to overcome all those potentially repelling forces and unite.
Love needs not so much to be learned or cultivated, but rather released or brought from within us to the surface. We are love.
Our basic nature is love. However, our ignorance, fear and attachment have buried it so deeply within us that it is sometimes
difficult to summon or maintain. Loving others